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November 15, 2019

I wanted to follow up with the last few blogs on emotional intelligence and introduce a term coined over 20 years ago by Ron Levant. Normative Male Alexithymia is defined as “mildly (or sometimes more severely) emotionally shut down (and often depressed) men who strugg...

November 1, 2019

Through the process of working with the thousands of individuals and couples who have come to me for help with their sexuality, it has become clear to me that many of the people that reach out have a background from conservative religious backgrounds that affected thei...

October 18, 2019

As Americans, we generally view conflict as being a negative experience, often with the end-goal being the defeat of our opponent. Whether that be in the form of relational or organizational dynamics, conflict tends to make us uncomfortable. We may attempt to avoid dea...

October 5, 2019

There is a lot of content in social media competing for our attention. I came across a golden nugget the other day. Facebook had suggested a video for me to watch - a show called Red Table Talk. I was unfamiliar with the show, but familiar with its stars/creators - Jad...

September 27, 2019

Operational definition for sexual shame

Sexual shame is a visceral feeling of humiliation and disgust toward one’s own body and identity as a sexual being and a belief of being abnormal, inferior and unworthy. This feeling can be internalized but also manifests in inte...

September 13, 2019

I’m an avid reader and audible book listener and one of my reading and listening goals is to find both research and resources to better support my clients. The past month, I’ve had multiple meaningful conversations with clients about the following books. Whenever I see...

August 30, 2019

It is difficult to get people to agree on the parameters of what we would define as "sexual health." Often it seems to go along the lines of whatever the person defining the concept is comfortable with themselves. This is even true in professional mental health circles...

August 23, 2019

My dad was what you might call a “typical male” father figure. He worked a ton, was rarely home and expressed feelings other than anger or frustration minimally (if at all)—a stereotype that unfortunately has loads of truth in our society. When I became an adult, we go...

August 16, 2019

Grief is a process we are all familiar with. We tend to associate grief with a major loss such as the death of a loved one or beloved pet. When we experience sadness or depression over other types of loss - loss of a job, a breakup, or fertility, for example, we may ac...