November 1, 2019

Through the process of working with the thousands of individuals and couples who have come to me for help with their sexuality, it has become clear to me that many of the people that reach out have a background from conservative religious backgrounds that affected thei...

August 30, 2019

It is difficult to get people to agree on the parameters of what we would define as "sexual health." Often it seems to go along the lines of whatever the person defining the concept is comfortable with themselves. This is even true in professional mental health circles...

April 26, 2019

Mental health practitioners have noted for a long time how differently people can behave online than they do in person; often in more negative and aggressive ways, with resulting effects on readers. This is especially typical with topics that generally tend to be polar...

March 8, 2019

So here’s a conversation I had with my kiddos several years ago when they were quite a bit younger. One son was 3 years  old, joined in by my 5 year old son as they were getting dressed during the day.

“Mommy, what is this?” Lifting his penis and tou...

December 11, 2018

Be willing to see your "mixed-faith" status as an asset instead of a liability. How?

1. Before you read any of my next points... make a conscious, intentional decision that you are willing to reframe your relationship in this way. Say something to yourself that goes as...

October 30, 2018

Continued points from last week's post (Part 1): 

8. Like all feelings, anger can lie to you. Like I mentioned in the previous post, confirmation bias is a thing. And it doesn’t matter how smart or “rational” you think you are… you’re affected by it. Most of us think we...