Faith transitions are brutal – for everyone involved. Those who are facing information or experiences that no longer resonate with their religious upbringing or conversion find themselves in painful situations where they feel confusion, pain, tremendous loss, doubts, having to redefine much of their personal, spiritual and relational identities, and are often facing less than ideal responses from their loved ones and church communities. Those who love their faith and believe
Stephen R. Covey calls empathic listening "psychological air”. He continues, "The greatest need of the human heart is to be understood. “ “What air is to the lungs, listening is to the soul.” Unknown author People can disagree on an issue and still understand where the other person is coming from. One can increase their understanding of why another sees the world the way they do. We can increase our understanding, love and acceptance of each other without giving up our own vi
Continued from last weeks post: In meta-studies on the factors that influence the effectiveness of therapy outcomes, the numbers fall out approximately like this: 40% client factors (what is going on in your life) 35% therapeutic alliance 15% placebo effect/client belief (a really powerful mysterious tool) 10% modality or techniques (do they fit) So having completely muddied the waters, what next? How do I find a “good fit” or a strong “therapeutic alliance”? And the short an
Back before I was a therapist, choosing a therapist felt like torture. Now that I know how it all works, sadly, it’s not much better. “How do I choose a therapist” is one of the most common questions people ask me now that I am one. There are a ton of variables: do I want to choose a psychologist, a counselor, a marriage and family therapist, or a clinical social worker? Should I look for someone who uses EMDR, CBT, REBT, DBT, Adlerian, psychodynamic, gestalt, or person cente
I have permission to share the following poem anonymously written by someone who has experienced a faith transition (changes in belief) for many years. This was written towards the beginning of their process while this person was still a college student. Is it destiny
That’s making me?
Am I breaking down?
Or am I breaking free? I feel so out of place when I’m in my element
Can’t find the words to say... like I’m betraying an old friend
So please tell me why it used to fe